Comments on: body memory http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/05/19/body-memory/ a blog by Rick Belden, author of Iron Man Family Outing Thu, 02 Feb 2012 12:45:57 -0800 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Male Survivor Workshop – First Night « Shadow Vortex http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/05/19/body-memory/comment-page-1/#comment-24838 Male Survivor Workshop – First Night « Shadow Vortex Thu, 21 Jul 2011 03:02:17 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/05/19/body-memory/#comment-24838 [...] things Rick has said to me. I discovered two poems in that book which sung to me. One was “body memory” and the other was “learning to breathe“. I devoured these two poems over and [...] [...] things Rick has said to me. I discovered two poems in that book which sung to me. One was “body memory” and the other was “learning to breathe“. I devoured these two poems over and [...]

]]> By: Rick http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/05/19/body-memory/comment-page-1/#comment-1419 Rick Sat, 30 May 2009 14:27:31 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/05/19/body-memory/#comment-1419 Nancy, Even after years of working with the information in my body, I still frequently miss or override what it's telling me. All those years of being conditioned to ignore it ("no pain no gain" etc) take a lot of time and focused attention to unwind, I suppose. In an <a href="http://rickbelden.com/blog/2008/10/12/poetry-dreams-and-the-body" rel="nofollow">earlier post</a>, I wrote: <blockquote> I was also, at that time, coming into a new form of relationship with my body. I’d been treating my body like a mechanism for most of my life, a strange and mysterious “other” that felt external and separate from what I thought of as myself, an unreliable machine that suffered from all sorts of inconvenient problems and breakdowns that no doctor I’d seen could explain. I know now that this sort of separation and dissociation from the body is very common among men and boys in my culture. I also know now that it’s common to another demographic group of which I am also a member: adult survivors of childhood abuse. </blockquote> Twenty years later, I'm still working to learn and remember to listen to and honor my body. It's one of the best guides I have. Thanks for reading and commenting. Nancy,
Even after years of working with the information in my body, I still frequently miss or override what it’s telling me. All those years of being conditioned to ignore it (“no pain no gain” etc) take a lot of time and focused attention to unwind, I suppose.

In an earlier post, I wrote:

I was also, at that time, coming into a new form of relationship with my body. I’d been treating my body like a mechanism for most of my life, a strange and mysterious “other” that felt external and separate from what I thought of as myself, an unreliable machine that suffered from all sorts of inconvenient problems and breakdowns that no doctor I’d seen could explain. I know now that this sort of separation and dissociation from the body is very common among men and boys in my culture. I also know now that it’s common to another demographic group of which I am also a member: adult survivors of childhood abuse.

Twenty years later, I’m still working to learn and remember to listen to and honor my body. It’s one of the best guides I have.

Thanks for reading and commenting.

]]> By: Nancy Richards http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/05/19/body-memory/comment-page-1/#comment-1414 Nancy Richards Sat, 30 May 2009 02:16:45 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/05/19/body-memory/#comment-1414 Rick - Thank you for sharing this poignant poem. Your poem gave me pause because I have currently been working on paying attention to what my body is telling me; something I have overlooked for years. Nancy Rick – Thank you for sharing this poignant poem. Your poem gave me pause because I have currently been working on paying attention to what my body is telling me; something I have overlooked for years. Nancy

]]> By: Rick http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/05/19/body-memory/comment-page-1/#comment-1413 Rick Fri, 29 May 2009 21:44:03 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/05/19/body-memory/#comment-1413 ChildPerson, Thanks for taking the time to visit and comment at the end of a long day. I hope the remainder of your day provides lots of time and space to process, to rest, and to tend to your own needs. ChildPerson,
Thanks for taking the time to visit and comment at the end of a long day. I hope the remainder of your day provides lots of time and space to process, to rest, and to tend to your own needs.

]]> By: Rick http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/05/19/body-memory/comment-page-1/#comment-1412 Rick Fri, 29 May 2009 21:33:52 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/05/19/body-memory/#comment-1412 Marj, Thanks for reading and commenting. If you're interested, I have an article on making use of the information available in the body at: <a href="http://rickbelden.com/blog/2008/12/14/the-body-is-the-gateway" title="the body is the gateway" rel="nofollow">http://rickbelden.com/blog/2008/12/14/the-body-is-the-gateway</a> Thanks also for organizing the carnival this month and providing the rest of us with the opportunity to contribute. Marj,
Thanks for reading and commenting. If you’re interested, I have an article on making use of the information available in the body at:

http://rickbelden.com/blog/2008/12/14/the-body-is-the-gateway

Thanks also for organizing the carnival this month and providing the rest of us with the opportunity to contribute.

]]> By: ChildPerson http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/05/19/body-memory/comment-page-1/#comment-1410 ChildPerson Fri, 29 May 2009 19:03:21 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/05/19/body-memory/#comment-1410 Thank you for sharing this for The Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse. I can't say more for the day is long and the triggers have been too many. Time now to take care... Thank you for sharing this for The Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse. I can’t say more for the day is long and the triggers have been too many. Time now to take care…

]]> By: MarjakaThriver http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/05/19/body-memory/comment-page-1/#comment-1409 MarjakaThriver Fri, 29 May 2009 13:42:12 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/05/19/body-memory/#comment-1409 My heart just aches for the pain of that little boy. You're right--our bodies DO remember. Thanks for letting us use this poem for THE BLOG CARNIVAL AGAINST CHILD ABUSE. I'll be getting the May edition up later today. My heart just aches for the pain of that little boy. You’re right–our bodies DO remember. Thanks for letting us use this poem for THE BLOG CARNIVAL AGAINST CHILD ABUSE. I’ll be getting the May edition up later today.

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