Comments on: fused at the wound http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/ a blog by Rick Belden, author of Iron Man Family Outing Thu, 02 Feb 2012 12:45:57 -0800 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Rick http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/comment-page-1/#comment-5141 Rick Wed, 21 Oct 2009 17:28:47 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/#comment-5141 Thanks, Andrew. I'm glad you found it meaningful. Thanks, Andrew. I’m glad you found it meaningful.

]]> By: Andrew http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/comment-page-1/#comment-5134 Andrew Wed, 21 Oct 2009 10:37:08 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/#comment-5134 Wow, painful poem. Well written and bravely expressed. Wow, painful poem. Well written and bravely expressed.

]]> By: Rick http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/comment-page-1/#comment-4591 Rick Tue, 29 Sep 2009 03:18:37 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/#comment-4591 Thanks, Marj, for reading and commenting. I really appreciated your remarks. I'm happy I could contribute something to this month's carnival that seems to resonate so strongly with readers. I think one of the biggest legacies of growing up in an abusive, neglectful family system is that there are so many life skills we need as adults that we don't know because the people who raised us didn't know them either. And so often, we don't know that we don't know, so we keep trying and failing and wondering why. At least in this case, I knew why. Thanks, Marj, for reading and commenting. I really appreciated your remarks. I’m happy I could contribute something to this month’s carnival that seems to resonate so strongly with readers.

I think one of the biggest legacies of growing up in an abusive, neglectful family system is that there are so many life skills we need as adults that we don’t know because the people who raised us didn’t know them either. And so often, we don’t know that we don’t know, so we keep trying and failing and wondering why. At least in this case, I knew why.

]]> By: marjakathriver http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/comment-page-1/#comment-4578 marjakathriver Mon, 28 Sep 2009 15:34:07 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/#comment-4578 Wow! I am blown away! I can't believe how honest and raw this is...how insightful this is...and how well-written. But, actually, I can believe it, Rick. You are an amazing poet. Thanks so much for allowing us to use this for this month's Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse. I think many child abuse survivors can relate to being in a relationship like this, with someone else who is wounded. Wow! I am blown away! I can’t believe how honest and raw this is…how insightful this is…and how well-written. But, actually, I can believe it, Rick. You are an amazing poet. Thanks so much for allowing us to use this for this month’s Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse. I think many child abuse survivors can relate to being in a relationship like this, with someone else who is wounded.

]]> By: Rick http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/comment-page-1/#comment-4556 Rick Sun, 27 Sep 2009 17:00:33 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/#comment-4556 I appreciated your comment, Patricia, and I think it highlights an important, sometimes neglected aspect of the experience I expressed with this poem. It's about a sad, painful point in a relationship that mattered deeply to me, no doubt about that, but it's also about a profound opening into a new awareness and knowledge of myself, my behavior, and my conditioning that I'd never had before. From that perspective, it's not just about the impending death of the relationship, how we got there and how frustrated and hurt we both were about it. It's also about a moment of awakening to a more authentic understanding of myself and the realities of being in a relationship. It's a moment of liberation from the patterns of the past and a first, uncertain step toward new freedom and greater authenticity in relationship to myself as well as to others. I appreciated your comment, Patricia, and I think it highlights an important, sometimes neglected aspect of the experience I expressed with this poem. It’s about a sad, painful point in a relationship that mattered deeply to me, no doubt about that, but it’s also about a profound opening into a new awareness and knowledge of myself, my behavior, and my conditioning that I’d never had before. From that perspective, it’s not just about the impending death of the relationship, how we got there and how frustrated and hurt we both were about it. It’s also about a moment of awakening to a more authentic understanding of myself and the realities of being in a relationship. It’s a moment of liberation from the patterns of the past and a first, uncertain step toward new freedom and greater authenticity in relationship to myself as well as to others.

]]> By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/comment-page-1/#comment-4540 Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker Sat, 26 Sep 2009 20:11:12 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/#comment-4540 Loving someone else comes only after you learn to love yourself. Learning that I couldn't fix someone else was huge. I didn't even know how to fix myself so how could I possibly fix someone else. Knowing that fixing someone else isn't my responsibility enabled me to "Let go and let God." That is one of the many things that I learned from Al-Anon. Thank God that my dad was also an alcoholic or I may never have gotten into a recovery problem that taught me about myself and what I was responsible for in my life. Great poem. Thanks for sharing it. Loving someone else comes only after you learn to love yourself. Learning that I couldn’t fix someone else was huge. I didn’t even know how to fix myself so how could I possibly fix someone else. Knowing that fixing someone else isn’t my responsibility enabled me to “Let go and let God.” That is one of the many things that I learned from Al-Anon. Thank God that my dad was also an alcoholic or I may never have gotten into a recovery problem that taught me about myself and what I was responsible for in my life.

Great poem. Thanks for sharing it.

]]> By: Rick http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/comment-page-1/#comment-4528 Rick Sat, 26 Sep 2009 13:45:28 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/#comment-4528 <strong>Shen and Paula:</strong> Thanks so much for stopping by and commenting. This poem seems to hit home for a lot of people. Shen and Paula: Thanks so much for stopping by and commenting. This poem seems to hit home for a lot of people.

]]> By: Paula http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/comment-page-1/#comment-4525 Paula Sat, 26 Sep 2009 11:26:30 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/#comment-4525 Codependecy is so powerful, it takes so muhc courage and awareness to get out. Big warm hug Codependecy is so powerful, it takes so muhc courage and awareness to get out. Big warm hug

]]> By: Shen http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/comment-page-1/#comment-4504 Shen Fri, 25 Sep 2009 21:37:29 +0000 http://rickbelden.com/blog/2009/06/07/fused-at-the-wound/#comment-4504 This codependency positively explodes from this poem. Wonderfyl expression. thanks for sharing. This codependency positively explodes from this poem. Wonderfyl expression. thanks for sharing.

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